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9/6/2011 8:11 PM 

The question whether to be in a committed relationship with your partner, move in together, have children  and live happily ever after or go the age old traditional way of paying lobola,do all the necessary tradional ceremonies, buy a house together, have children and live happily ever after, is highly debatable. There are those who prefer to rather be in a committed relationship to avoid all costs that come with going the traditional route of saying your vows. These individuals believe it works better for the relationship as it gives the relationship more freedom in a sense that none of the parties involved are restricted in terms of their freedom and personal space as long as one can still show committment in the relationship then its acceptable.

One tends to focus more on the relationship than the numerous costs that will come with the costs of marriage, the costs of ceremonies before and after the wedding. There are loans to be repayed should a couple have taken a loan for their wedding. It is basically looked at as a costly exercise.

On the other hand, others shy away from having to settle with their partners without having gone through the traditional route as one believes one needs to get the blessings of the elders and the community before settling down. There is also a lot of tradional beliefs about ancestors turning their backs on you as one has to bring them to the occasion with the the ceremonies that take place before the actual wedding.

Whichever way you choose depends entirely on the individual as to what you believe in and what makes you feel good.

Here are some of your comments:

Nontobeko Annele This is one & the same thing commiting & getting married because even though you are commited kwase kwenzeka nyahlukana ngisho ungazama ukuxola , memories will always stay as a flame in your mind, umuntu uma esefuna ukushada just pray 4 your marriage God will help anidlulise ezimweni ezinzima.

Bongisipho Mbeje I personaly don't want 2 be a girlfriend forever

Geepy Mbhele KaSompisi To me it doesn't matter if my man wants to spend money by marryng me its fine but if he doesn't still the same what's important is that he loves me because  living happy is not determined by getting married or not but if a person is gone cheat or live you she/he is gone do that one way or the other married or not.

Philah Mkhize Akushadwe bo!

Gugu Mdletshe I prefer to stay committed because sometimes saying i do spoils a good relationship.

Whats your best option?

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